Making Love to a Woman

When people think of making love, the first thing that comes to their mind is the physical aspect. It love goes far beyond what the eyes can see. Even though lovemaking consists of many things, we are only going to focus on the mental and physical aspects. Without realizing it, the simple things we do are considered making love. Through my experiences, I've learned that making love is far more mental than it is physical. Making love is like a waterfall; it's full of passion and desire. It is like the deepest sea; it's unpredictable and deep beyond comprehension. Making love is like music; it gives you the best melody and harmony. It makes two people connect in a way that they become one. And if you want to make love to a woman, you must understand a woman.

In the first stage, you must change your definition of a woman. A woman is a God sent angel who was put on this earth to make the world go around. The sun rises and sets in a woman; there's nothing like a smile from a woman to start your day off right. Without a woman, the world as we know it would not exist. Whether you agree or disagree, this is how you must view all women in the beginning.

In the second stage, you must be able to understand a woman and yourself. You must know what a woman wants and what makes her heart feel warm and complete. You need to know your place in life and know what you want out of life. You need to know what you want in a woman and what makes your heart warm when it comes to a woman. You must also know your strengths and weaknesses and not be afraid to correct your weaknesses. You cannot be selfish; you must be gentle and kind and willing to share your heart, your mind, and your soul. Once you've learned a little bit about her, take things one day at a time and wait for that moment that could change the rest of your life.

In the third stage, you develop patience and take the first step in the mental portion of lovemaking. Men will ask, "How do you find a woman to make love to?" You don't find a woman to make love to you; you must let the moment or the woman find you. Sometimes, when you go out and search for a woman, you wind up empty handed or you come back with a woman who is not right for you. Your mind starts to play tricks on you and makes you believe in something that does not exist. There is really no length of time that you should wait for love. It will all come in due time. Love is patient, and you have to have a high level of patience to make love. It is hard to tell if you found the right woman. Once you meet a woman who interests you, it's up to you to get her interest. Just be you; don't try and act like someone else. If you do, you are setting yourself up for failure. Since most sensible women prefer a simple approach nothing special but a simple "hello" would be good enough. Keep the conversation very simple, as there really isn't any need to try to impress her at this point. When you do that, you may instantly turn her off. Maintain positive eye contact, which will let her know that she has your full attention. Give her the impression that she is the only other person who exists. If she asks you questions, give her direct answers. Don't beat around the bush; it will give the impression that you are hiding something. Be honest and truthful! You have to be honest and truthful to yourself before you can be honest and truthful to anyone else.

In the fourth stage, the mental act of lovemaking continues to develop. It can start with a simple phone call or a night on the town. If the two of you exchanged numbers, it's proper that you call her first, but do not call her the same day that you meet her. It may be a little overbearing for her, so wait until the next day. Be sincere with your initial phone call and try to avoid a long "moment of silence." Let her know that she was on your mind and in your thoughts. Remember, she had a life before she met you. Her life does not stop for you nor does it revolve around you. If you ask her out and she already has a date, then reschedule. Don't show signs of attitude, which may cause her to lose any interest she has in you. Continue with the phone conversations and continue to learn more about her. The learning process is an ongoing process. You could possibly spend everyday of the rest of your life learning about this woman. You need to know what makes her happy and what makes her sad. You need to know her wants and desires and how they compare with your wants and desires. When you finally take her on the first date, end it by giving her a single white rose. Choose the color white because it represents purity; it lets her know that your thoughts and feelings are pure. Choose a single rose because her mind will tend to expand more on a single rose than a dozen. The more time you spend together, the more "love" you are making. Making love is a simple smile, a "hello," or even a kiss. Making love is calling to say, "I was thinking about you." Making love is sending her flowers, cards, and notes to let her know that she is special. Making love is spending quality time with her and making her feel safe and secure. If her guard is up, being sincere will help bring it down. Making love is sharing her strengths and understanding her weaknesses. There isn't such thing as "the perfect woman." However, there is such thing as "your perfect woman." Making love is accepting her with fault; change the things that you can change and love the things that you cannot. Making love does not stop here; it is a continuous process. As along as you two are together, you will always make love to her.

Now that you have just gotten inside of her mind, you have just stimulated her soul. Her soul in turn affects her mind and stimulates her heart. Now that you have her heart stimulated, you have just caused her mind to question her heart. That is natural, so expect it. At this point, you need to keep securing her mind until her mind agrees with her heart. Once they agree with one another, she is comfortable and secure in what you two have established.

The final stage of making love to a woman is the physical act itself. People have asked me, "How can you make love to someone that you don't love?" I would always reply, "You have to make love to someone in order to love someone." You have to look at the physical act of lovemaking as an art. It is something beautiful and priceless. Each curve on her body is an adventure in itself. Her body becomes the canvas and you become the artist. By this point, you should know what turns her on physically. You will not be selfish, and you must spoil her. In other words, the first physical encounter between the two of you is all about her. She gets your full and undivided attention with no distractions. Take it nice and slow. There's no need to rush; you have all night. And, as the artist... you will begin to paint. Without saying a word, start kissing her on the neck, and carry her to the room (or wherever you desire to make love). You will lay her down gently and start to kiss her on the lips. You must be very gentle in whatever you do. Treat her as if she is a delicate rose petal. Kiss and caress her all over her body until you have covered every part. Make sure her dreams are filled with visions of eternal bliss. You two will embrace and become one. Seal it with a soft gentle kiss to the forehead. Then, hold her close, and enjoy the aftermath. During this magical moment, you have just stimulated her mind, touched her body, and felt her soul.